It’s helpful to read advice columns to find suggestions or solutions for a specific problem.
STEP A EXPRESSIONS
I. Go over the expressions with your tutor.
1. To think of someone as something means to consider someone in a particular way.
I don’t have romantic feelings for him. I think of him as a little brother.
2. A male/female friend refers to a friend of the opposite gender who is not your boyfriend/girlfriend.
I have a lot of female friends.
3. To have feelings for someone in that way means to have romantic feelings for someone.
I don’t have feelings for her in that way. I just want to be friends.
II. How do you feel about your best male/female friend? Use the expressions above.
STEP B PRONUNCIATION
/ tha-way /
She said she doesn’t have feelings for him in / tha-way /.
Kelsie is reading an interesting advice column.
Ask Miss Lovely
Awkward Around Andy
Dear Miss Lovely: My male friend Andy and I have been friends since elementary school. Now, we’re working at the same company, so we eat lunch together almost every day. All of our coworkers insist that we’re in love, but I don’t have feelings for him in that way. They say men and women can’t be friends. But I only think of him as a friend. I like him, but I don’t like like him! Now, I feel awkward whenever we’re together. What should I do? – Troubled Female Friend
Dear Troubled Female Friend: Are you sure you only have platonic love for your male friend? Think about this: If you don’t have romantic feelings for him, why do you feel awkward around him? It may be because of your coworkers, but it could also be because of new feelings for your male friend. It’s not unusual for love to suddenly bloom in a long-term friendship.
Do you know the difference between like and like like? In this case, like refers to a friendly feeling, while like like refers to a romantic kind of feeling. So the phrase I like him/her, but I don’t like like him/her means that you like the person on a platonic level but have no romantic feelings for him/her.
STEP A EXERCISE
The underlined expressions are close but not quite correct. Correct them.
- Victoria is too young for me. I think of her by my little sister.
- Martin is my males’ friend.
- I’m not in love with Thomas. I don’t have a feeling for him in that way.
STEP B EXERCISE
Choose the correct expressions in the parentheses.
Tutor: Does Vincent like like Wendy?
Student: No, they’re only friends. He doesn’t (think of her as a sister / have feelings for her in that way).
Tutor: What’s Helga’s problem? She’s been kind of strange recently.
Student: I think she’s falling in love with her best (male friend / boyfriend).
Tutor: Are you interested in Matt?
Student: No, I just (think of him as a friend / have feelings for him in that way).
You and your friend are relaxing at a café together. Read the online advice column. Then, tell your friend about it.
- think of someone as something
- a male/female friend
- have feelings for someone in that way
Love Guru to the Rescue
In love with My Best Friend
Dear Love Guru,
I think I’m starting to like like my one female friend. We’ve known each other since high school. Back then, I didn’t care who she was dating. But now, I feel jealous whenever she has a boyfriend. I’m really confused about my feelings for her right now. Does this mean I’m in love with her? – Confused Male Best Friend
Dear Confused Male Best Friend,
Sometimes people confuse platonic love for romantic love. Platonic love is about caring for someone you are close with. It’s normal for a person in a platonic relationship to have a strong attachment to the other person, but this doesn’t always mean you’re actually in love. Are you possibly just jealous because your best friend has less time for you when she’s dating someone? Think carefully.
Discuss your ideas.
I can read and understand an advice column about platonic love.
LESSON GOAL ACHIEVEMENT
Could complete the task with ease
Could complete the task with some clarifications
Could complete the task with additional instructions
Could somehow complete the task with difficulty
the ability to use a wide variety of vocabulary
the ability to speak correctly
the ability to speak smoothly without pauses or fillers
the ability to manage a conversation